Struggle Session is supposed to go up on Thursday… but I figure it’s still Thursday somewhere or, if not, it will be Thursday again soon, right?
Okay, let’s struuuuuuuuggle…
About MINO…
So many of your responses are right on, and I have enjoyed reading your column for years because of your insight and knowledge on all things sexual. But I think you may have missed the mark with MINO. I am a therapist specializing in trauma, and my first guess would be that her husband was severely sexually abused as a child. Children who are sexually abused can react in adulthood by becoming either hypersexual or hyposexual. The thing is, if the abuse happened early, he may not even remember it — this is common — and may have no idea why he has this PTSD avoidance response to the possibility of sex. Even if he were to start therapy, it could take a long time to uncover what his sex avoidance is all about.
The other possibility is that he has low testosterone, or maybe that too. Sexual abuse can really mess with the adrenals,...